healthy communication = healthy YOU

the first component…

Honest communication with YOURSELF.  There is no way you can have any kind of substantial relationship with any one else if you don’t or can’t have one with yourself.

How do you know if you are being honest with yourself you may ask? If you are deeply honest with yourself, there is an inner peace that you experience.

• The ability to take a nice big deep breath without any difficulties or constraints.
• Not rationalizing when it comes time to make decisions.
• Feeling at peace and at ease.
• Being able to look in the mirror and liking —no, loving — who you see looking back at you.
• Being able to be the same personality with everyone you meet, no masks.

In the movie Runaway Bride, Julia Roberts’ character was a prime example of someone that was not deeply and honestly communicating with herself.   She changed for the people around her vs. knowing what she really wanted and who she really was.

altering our natural blueprint

Early on in most of our lives, we are told we need to be or act a certain way. We conform and with each alteration of our truest self (our natural blueprint) we become less in touch with who we are and where we are going in life. When feelings surface that we are having now, today, we deal with them the way we witnessed our parents handle emotions OR we just stuff them down deep inside so we don’t have to deal with them, and put a smile on our face and move along as if all is well with the world.  But deep inside we know that’s “not what I felt” or “what I really wanted to say” — leading to regret, guilt, remorse, and perhaps even shame.  We then not only carry the fact that we weren’t honest with our realest, deepest feelings or emotions, but now we have to carry the gray matter (or untruth).

By being truly honest with ourselves, listening to the voice within and honoring what it asks us to do, we can reverse the feelings of regret, guilt, remorse and, yes, even the shame.   We can cleanse our emotional pandora’s box of all that is being stored — allowing us to feel lighter, freer, happier and able to take that incredibly deep fulfilling breath feeling at peace and at ease.

GET IN ACTION: Write down three things that you have been storing in your heart that don’t feel right or have been weighing heavily.  Ask yourself, “what is the worst thing that could possibly happen if I honor the truth about these three things”?  What did you realize? Feel free to email me with your answers!