well-behaved women seldom make history

Well-behaved women seldom make history.  Well-behaved women rarely make history.  Well-behaved women NEVER make history.  Laurel Thatcher Ulrich and many other famous women have parroted this phrase and those that did, lived it in its entirety.  They didn’t allow society to squander their natural ways — they lived with no blinders, no fears and, in some cases, with reckless abandon.

All my life I have teetered on this fence of society and making history, wanting to live with reckless abandon and no fears. I believe it is naturally wired in me as it is in many of you as well.  We balance on that fence of what I am now calling “moderation”.  For the longest time I tried very hard to live within moderation only to realize that in doing so I was {and am} not honoring my truest self.

Parts of me stay within the confines of the rules. There is some necessity, I feel, to keeping the peace, but when it comes to me and my person, how I dress, think, communicate, behave…I teeter less and less on that fence. I have this picture hanging in my office that has reminded me during my child-rearing days of who is still lurking within this body of mine, and I was intuitive enough to know to keep this side of me engaged throughout my life. Even in small ways, so my inner goddess fire would continue to burn strong.  This picture came from an equally fiery woman, my once upon a time mother-in- law.  She always challenged me and I loved that about her.

There is an inner goddess — a temptress — within every woman I believe. Some of us get so lost in our everyday of being a wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, colleague, that when we believe the time comes to let her back out again, we forget how, or lose the spark or the energy. FEAR NOT! If this does happen, there are ways to reignite that goddess flame within!  She is NOT gone and forgotten, and even if you’re not sure if she even exists within you…trust me, she does!

Even in the smallest dose, we all have the goddess fire within and she is just dying to get out and be expressed.  That doesn’t mean you have to go get a lap dance!  But it does mean that you have to learn to be good with your body, understand it — what works and what doesn’t — and then explore why.

1. Feel you are enough exactly as you are, flaws and all.
2. Have confidence exuding from your every pore, walk tall — silently — with an elegant, yet humble, way.
3. Connect to yourself before you can hope to honestly and completely connect with another person.
4. Live a full life of love and abundance…with flair and in full goddess mode!

What does “Goddess Mode” mean to you?   Send me your thoughts…